Getting over the year 2022

First of all - A very Happy New 2023 Year to all of you readers.

The year 2022 had brought about plethora of changes in the world. Many noteworthy changes indeed. From countries carrying out special operations on their neighbour countries to a militant group regaining power over a county. From world facing oil crises to extreme floods and then the emergence of another virus. This has certainly changed the way we look at the world. There is more of a geo-political look out while thinking about other nations.

Being said that - the life continues. And as life continues, so does our daily routine work. We have entered a new chapter of 2023. We all wish to start this new year with new passion and dedication towards whatever thing we are supposed to do in our life. But it is never easy to start a year a new with an empty notebook. There will always be the hangover of the previous year. We are made up of our past experiences and it is often very hard to let go of some of our past experiences.

Experiences can be good or bad. Good ones we may take them along with us to the future while the bad ones we wish we could just forget it then and there. Forgetting is not an easy task when the thing you are forgetting has had an impact on your life, no matter how tiny. While holding on to those experiences can also lead us to getting demotivated and loosing the interest to try out certain things - knowing the results. Hence it becomes important to let go of certain things, people and experiences.

Getting over a person or a think can appear to be an easy task. Cutting off the contact, not walking the same path, getting yourself busy in something else can help. But at a point, we tend to remember those things again. Memories can hardly be erased from our mind.

So how can be get over the past experiences?

People tend to think of 'getting over' to be same as 'forgive and forget'. Although it certainly does hold grounds for 'forgiveness', often it is more than impossible to forget. Usually what hurt the most is not the even or the experience or the person but it's their interpretation in the current time. For example - 'I did not get the job that I wanted and hence I am currently doing this job that I hate.' Or 'I wanted to start a new career last year but I did not get the opportunity because of which I am working under a boss that I hate.' We try and blame the event for not being in a place where we wanted to be currently. This makes us revolve in the 'blame game' and ignore the actual reasons 'why we did not get the job' or 'why we failed to start a new career last year.'

Focus on things that led you to that event. If you did not get the job, understand that it may be because you were really not the best fit for that job position. So next time when you appear for an interview make sure you prepare more to rightly fit into the job that is on offer.

Avoid generalisation of events.

Generalisations can be a major hurdle that is keeping you from getting over an event or experience. For example - If you think "I am not the best fit for any job and no one will ever give me a job" then may be you don't go out and apply for the available jobs and make it so that is, in fact, the result. If you think negatively and when the negative manifests it's easier to say "See I told ya." But in case you are manifesting why not manifest good things. Say that "you will prepare more and apply for more jobs and do well in the interview and this will give me my dream job."

Get off the back of previous experiences and start living the new ones. The event do hold out emotions but not letting some of them go will lead you to add 'guilt' feeling to it. Feeling of "there is something wrong with me for I am not able to get over an event" can be extremely demotivating. Hence start with positive manifesting, start with finding solutions to the cause of the events. Eventually you will get busy with life and forget about the past events. Will you forget it completely? Well I don't think so. I also think that these bad events or experiences should never be forgotten, for they teach you where you come from.

Start your new year with a banger. How to do it is explained in this article - how to plan your new year.

The year 2023 will be crucial for everyone. With climate change making people to change the way they life to nuclear bomb threats all over the nations - all we have is now. We all certainly will face bad events, people leaving us, failures but what will keep us going will be our dreams. So let's dream and manifest for a beautiful year ahead.

And I wish you all a very healthy and prosperous and successful and eventful year ahead.

This article was inspired from - Elizabeth Lombardo, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist and author of A Happy You. Kathy Andersen, a well-being coach and author of Change Your Shoes, Live Your Greatest Life.